“You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view.” ~ Harper Lee
Remember the story about the blindfolded men and an elephant? If not, here’s the gist of it:
Five men examine an elephant by touch. They are trying to determine what it is. But each man is blindfolded. And each feels only one part: a leg, a side, a tusk, the trunk, and the tail. When each declares what is before him, they begin to argue vehemently, each believing he is “right.”
In a sense, they are all “right” because each is describing his own experience and what he is able to perceive from his limited encounter with the elephant. From another perspective, however, none are right because they are far from understanding the whole, or what an elephant truly is.
Like all good parable stories, this one offers wisdom.
May we remember that, even with our eyes wide open,
none of us has full understanding about elephants
or about anything.
With that wisdom, let’s share our views
and listen to one another with curiosity and respect.
Love and compassion too.
PS – One way to better understand one another when we disagree is to say: “Please tell me your story. I want to understand how you see things and how you have come to hold that opinion.” Or, something to that effect in your own words.
“I’m grateful to be in this world.”
~ Alexis Giordano
Who is Alexis Giordano? My 5-year-old granddaughter. She said this at the dinner table during a recent family reunion.
After praying, “God is great. God is good. Let us thank him for our food,” we each took a turn asking for a blessing or expressing a gratitude.
Alexis’ addition surprised us all and left us silent for a moment. This morning, as I recall what she said and how she said it, I am again a bit stunned and stirred.
How often am I grateful simply to be in this world? Simply to be?
How often are you?
How are you feeling about being in this world today?
Along with the words of a 5-year-old child, let’s be stirred by a portion of the often-quoted poem, Desiderata:
“…whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace with your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy.”
With peace in our souls, may we be grateful to be in this world.
(God bless all the animals in the world too…as twin brother Anthony added.)
“It’s not so much knowing when to speak, but when to pause.”
~ Jack Benny
Hmmm. There’s wisdom and power in that.
Comedian Benny’s comment was probably about pausing to obtain the best laughter. But pausing before speaking is wise in all types of communication. Consider pausing and saying Hmmm in the midst of conversations you have today.
Marriage counselor and author Kathlyn Hendricks recommends pausing and saying Hmmm not only because it can help us make time to respond with care rather than react, but also because saying Hmmm truly helps us to wonder, to consider, and to make room for possibilities.
Saying Hmmm conveys respect to the other person too. It’s as if you are saying, “Let me think about that.”
When we pause and say Hmmm, we are sending a “Let me think about that” message to our own minds as well. Saying Hmmm can help us meet one another heart to heart instead of going head to head.
So whether a discussion is becoming heated, or not, whether it is with a family member, friend, co-worker, neighbor, or stranger, try pausing and saying Hmmm.
You might be amazed at what happens.
Blessings to all our conversations and relationships.
“Blessed is the influence of one true, loving human soul on another.” ~ George Eliot
Using our gifts, let’s be that: true, loving human souls, blessed influences in the lives of others.
How? First, we aim to be authentic, courageously ourselves, centered in our loving essence. That itself will be a blessing to many.
Next, have a “soul to soul” with at least one person today and every day. What’s a “soul to soul”? It’s like a “heart to heart.” Except, instead of having an actual heartfelt conversation with someone, you communicate “soul to soul.”
Visualize, with a caring feeling, that you are connecting and communicating with a particular person. Set ego aside and allow a wise and loving exchange to happen, “soul to soul.” Even if you don’t “hear” anything back from the other soul, which is often the case, just send a message of respect, acceptance, and encouragement. Or, you can simply say, with reverence, Namaste or The Light in me honors the Light in you.
You can choose someone you easily talk with or someone who avoids close sharing and intimacy. You can even do this with an estranged family member or friend. Healing miracles can come from this practice.
May wisdom guide the way for each of us to become true loving souls and blessed influences in the world.
What is it? Orchestrated by Tara Leduc from Delta, British Columbia, Canada, it is one minute, synchronized across all the world’s time zones, where people do something that means peace to them.
It’s simple and easy to do yet powerful too.
Please join in. Here’s how:
Mark your calendar for Saturday, October 11. Enter it into your phone too.
According to Tara:
Next, scratch your head, and decide how YOU can be peace for 1 minute.
Do anything that means peace to you:
* Do a random act of kindness
* Tell your family how much you love them
* Sing a song
* Help someone across the street
* Volunteer your time
* Do yoga
* Hug (or cuddle or…you know) your lover
* Spend a minute Imagining a World with Peace.
Invite others, too. “I mean, everyone,” says Tara. “Let’s make this go huge! I mean, who wouldn’t want to feel peace? Who wouldn’t you want to share peace with? Can you imagine how great it’ll feel when 100,000+ people around the world feel peace all at once? It gives me shivers. It blows my heart wide open.”
Me too, Tara. So, I’m in.
This reminds me of Hands Across America, something that my family and I did on May 25, 1986. On that day an estimated 6.5 million people joined in and literally held hands across America.
By the way, this One Minute of World Peace is different than One Minute For Peace, which is my own initiative of taking one minute for peace each day at 1:11.
Did Hands Across America matter? Does it change anything? Do these peace actions matter? What do you think? I think they do. I know that when I do things like this, I am moved a little bit closer to glimpsing that we are, indeed, all connected. I am moved toward greater peace, love, joy, and hope in my daily life. And I have faith that we are all touched and affected, for the good.